Sunday, 19 April 2015

Meal Plan Monday 20th April 2105

We have had a hard couple of weeks since the sad passing of Mr MC&W father, our eating as you can imagine has been all over the place. But the meal plan is back and I have to juggle Mr MC&W working lots of strange hours.

Monday - It's just myself and the boys so we are having Jacket Potatoes with cheese and beans easy for me to pop in the oven when putting the boys to bed and simple to grab when I get downstairs.

Tuesday - Is the burial so there is no way we will want to cook so I must be honest with you I have gone for freezer everything. Steak Pies with Mash and Peas no real cooking. The boys we have got a ready made little dish meal

Wednesday - As it's little old me and the boys again, the boys will have a tomato risotto and I will have a mushroom risotto these are oven baked again allowing food I can just grab when I come downstairs.

Thursday - Tuna Pasta Bake for myself I will be using the slow cooker to keep the food warm so I do not have to cook once the boys are asleep. The boys will have Cheesy Pasta

Friday - I will have a spicy mince that will be cooked in the slow cooker served with pitta bread and Greek yogurt. The boys will have a Spag Bol using the same mince.

Saturday - Chicken burgers with crispy bacon and avocado for the adults and homemade pizza for the boys

Sunday - Pork medallions with Sage and Apple served with champ and greens. The boys will have a roast chicken breast, with plain mash and peas.

Monday, 13 April 2015

Dealing with Autism, a toddler and Death

You may have noticed we have been a little quiet in the MC&W household, tragically and very unexpectedly Mr MC&W father died in his sleep on Easter Sunday night. I can not put into words the whirlwind we have been living in for the last few days.

We as adults are coming to terms with the huge sense of loss, but how do you tell a 4 year old with autism, delayed speech and understanding and his three year old brother who both loved grandpa dearly that he would no longer be coming to see them.

Being the modern parents we are we turned to Google, this I must admit scared the wits out of us. We read advice stating be careful of talking about him being good so going to heaven as they may think I have been good I will die. Do not say he was ill as they may worry if they get ill they may also die. We ended up convinced we were somehow going to scare our children for life on giving them the news.

At this point common sense coupled with a glass or two of red wine prevailed, we have to be clear and honest with them so a plan was formed. We read that they may mirror our emotions and also that little ones with ASD will most probably not get any emotions at all.

So this is how we told our boys, this is just about us and how we dealt with this situation. It has worked for us with careful thinking about our children's personalities and may not necessarily be how other children should be told or how they will react.

We all cuddled up on the sofa the eldest had to be rather hugged and held, we told them we had some sad news, we have to talk about the emotions in very simple terms. That when granny and grandpa come to visit it would now just be granny, as grandpa had sadly died and that means we can not see him again, but he was now a star in the sky and very happy.  By this point tears were streaming down our cheeks and the youngest did mirror our emotions the eldest laughed and ran off.

But it's true children do not understand the concept of someone not coming back, they will ask all the time, when are granny and grandpa coming to see us and each time we have to calmly explain. Though when granny arrived our eldest did run to her with a smile and tell her grandpa was in the sky to which he got a massive cuddle as he had understood.

We have contacted pre school and school as it's necessary we are all saying the same thing to our boys, next is the funeral and that's a whole new set of worries.

We have learnt be honest and kind to our children, they then need a huge amount of reassurance. Especially as the routine of day to day life changes, hubby away for a day and night not knowing when he may come back home. We have witnessed our youngest behaviour not being great and yesterday he was sick and I know it was due to everything going on. Do not be scared of showing some emotion they need to see you sad and as I read do not expect to be a perfect parent, it's a tough time for everyone you will get somethings wrong xxx


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Monday, 30 March 2015

Meal plan Monday 30th March 2015

I am very sorry I was not that well on Sunday and the eldest OB was ill a couple of days before that. I must admit thinking about food was not on the agenda. Adding to this Mr MC&W has an assignment meaning he is leaving early and getting home late, luckily we found out he can have a main meal at lunch times.

Monday - Mushroom risotto for myself and the boys

Tuesday - Tuna Pasta bake for me the boys will have cheesy pasta

Wednesday - this is a use up day as the shop is coming on Thursday so we are using up from the fridge and freezer

Thursday - Gnocchi with a homemade tomato sauce then finished under the grill with mozzarella. For me I will add peppers and mushrooms to the sauce.

Friday - Fish, Chips and Peas for everyone

Saturday - Fajitas for Mr MC&W and myself for the boys spag bol

Sunday - We are having the Easter Lunch from Good Food Mag. Potted prawns, leg lamb and cheesecake

Monday - Ready Meal for everyone as a rest from cooking

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Sunday, 22 March 2015

Meal Plan 23rd March 2015

A bit of a busy week in our household and for once I have managed to get my menu plan written up

Monday - Coconut Quorn Curry for myself and Mr Mud Cakes and Wine. The boys are going to have  the same lets see how it goes.....

Tuesday - Aubergine Parmigiana the boys will have pasta with just a plain tomato sauce

Wednesday - Jacket potato with tuna for Mr Mud Cakes and Wine and baked beans and cheese for boys as I am out with my special needs mummy's

Thursday - Mr Mud Cakes and Wine is out tonight so I will be having a Jacket Potato with beans and cheese the boys will have a Jacket Potato with broccoli and breaded chicken

Friday - Taiwanese Style Chicken Salad the boys will have a mini roast dinner

Saturday - A treat of a ready meal for us and the boys to give me a little rest from cooking

Sunday - Beef In The Slow Cooker with mashed potatoes and veggies

Saturday, 21 March 2015

Always looking on the Green Side

Shhhhh this post is a confession that I feel I need to get off my chest. I used to be totally obsessed with evergreens, when I was looking at plants all I wanted was a green garden all year round. For some reason I am not even sure why this was all I thought about, will it give me year round green.

Please do not get me wrong I have always loved the turning of winter, we visit Sheffield park and wonder at the amazing and vast array of reds and bronzes. I drive along watching as the leaves turn and winter slowly takes it's grip. But for some reason I had it in my head that I wanted to keep my garden as some green oasis in a sea of plants that had died back for the winter.

Since I have become more interested in gardening I have taken a step back and wondered what I was thinking about, I want to witness the changes in the seasons in my own garden. This is the first spring I have ever really paid attention to, yes I am like most people ohhh the daffodils are starting to come through and oh my it's suddenly turning green. But watching the plants come back to life, the small green shoots forming, the first delights of the snowdrops sending us all a little giddy on twitter.






Witnessing as the spring plants I brought have slowly started to grow and show us their beautiful Pinks, Yellows and Purples. 






The beauty of the plants in their winter form, the thistle heads, the structure of the trees standing tall against the cold winter sky's. I have at last when looking at plants started thinking will this have beautiful winter structure or die back and come back in the spring.



Although I am still very new to gardening I hope that my new way of thinking and planning will mean when I choose a plant it will have some sense to it..... Of course if it's got a pretty flower I may just choose it anyway
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Tuesday, 17 March 2015

Menu Plan Monday 16th March 2015

Sorry it's Wednesday and only just written this one up....

Monday - Chicken Parmigiana for the adults and the boys will have a mini roast dinner

Tuesday - Goats Cheese and pesto tart with salad and new Potatoes the boys will have a pesto and cheddar with mozzarella tart

Wednesday - using up some blue cheese so having a blue cheese, spinach pasta dish all made up and could go one of two ways. The boys will have Jackets with beans and sausages

Thursday - Tesco had some chicken pieces with a spicy sauce we will have those with corn on the cob and homemade Potato wedges. Boys will have cheesy pasta

Friday - Mexican Meatballs with tortilla chips and the boys will have mince and Gnocchi

Saturday - Ham, Eggs and Chips for everyone

Sunday - Chicken and Ham Pie for us all

Saturday, 14 March 2015

Did you have a good day?

I decided to write this post as a Mummy of a little boy who is on the Autism Spectrum and has very limited speech and understanding, I wanted to give a glimpse into our world.

He had been for a school trip to a small local airport and this is the story of collection and journey home....

As I walked through the door I almost heard the sigh of relief from the teachers, "Mummy is here" was said in that slightly high pitched tone mixing happy and stress all at the same time. OB runs towards me shouting Mummy then collapsed on the floor just by my feet telling me "I want yo see animals and go to Legoland". OK I think to myself here we go, I bent down to his level and said in that slight high pitched fake happy tone that it was time to get into Mummy's car, but he was getting distressed the word Lego was being said repeatedly. I noted he did not have his Lego (Lego goes everywhere with him) I enquired about said Lego, luckily it was quickly found, this seemed to calm for at least two mins. His TA and I took this opportunity grab a hand each as we walk him to the car. He is just saying Legoland and animals at this time while I am informed he did a lot of walking and ate two chicken goujons.

We get into the car, our routine of every car trip starts with him getting in the front seat, he changes the radio to disk and then selects track five from the frozen soundtrack and sits down his seat. As I buckle his seat belt and gave him a kiss on the cheek I ask him if he had a nice day he responded with I go to legoland.

I sit down in in the front seat and take a deep breath, as I am trying to set up the SatNav all I hear  is Mummy lets leave, Mummy go, this gets louder to an almost scream as I tried my hardest to get the SatNav working my stupid fingers unable to hit the right buttons. Finally we stared our journey home, I again asked how his day was, I know to ask short to the point questions, did you see a fire engine, did you see an aeroplane nothing just silence filled the car as track five came to an end the only words I hear are again again.

As we came to the traffic lights we had a melt down over the fact they were red and we could not move, I gave him my phone as we had a melt down over the light being green and he wanted the lights to be red again, big tears falling down his cheeks. As he finds his favourite song on spotify, gravity belts throughout the car, he still knows exactly when tack five has finished again again echoes out for the second time.

I decided to ask about his day one last time as we got closer to home, I got "I go to Legoland I go to Legoland" and nothing else. The only time I got anything more was when we he realised we were going home, then the demands for Legoland got more and more by the time we made it to the front door and I went to undo his seat belt, huge tears were falling down his face as he shouts for Legoland got louder and louder. I wrap my arms around him and pick him up he collapses in my arms sobbing and repeating legoland.

This is all I know about his day, when in the safety of the house and settled I asked again this time I got are are you crazy mummy with a huge smile and asked me to turn the TV over as "I don't like this one"......

As we are all aware Autism is a huge spectrum but I hope sharing this will help to give an idea about our life raising a child on the spectrum.  After speaking with his teachers I find out he was well behaved and they were very proud of him, he walked with the other children and sat while a talk took place, this would not have happened two months ago. My boy did well and apparently had a great time, thanks for the teachers for sitting me down to tell me this it means a lot.

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