I wanted to write a short post about our experience of a child who is autistic and the ability to show someone that they care. All children on the Autism spectrum are different, however when talking with friends who also have children who are autistic we have similar experiences when it comes to the ability to show and understand emotions, it does not come naturally to our little ones.
Let me show you how far we have come in the last couple of years, when OB first started pre school and I would come to collect him, all the other children would run arms out stretched to their Mummy or Daddy. OB would sit on his 121 lap then look at me and get up to run of and play with toys. In essence OB had to be shown what you do when your collected . Well now, as soon as he sees either myself or husband come to collect him, he sprints down the corridor and launches himself into you for the biggest cuddle, a massive smile on his face saying Mummy/Daddy..... It was not that he was unhappy to see us or that had not missed us, its the fact that the way he works he would just would not think about it. We are still working on saying goodbye as school is far more exciting but I have a feeling we are not alone there.
Another huge step forward came this week, I had a doctors appointment, when I told him I was going to see a doctor his face fell and he looked very concerned, his big blue eyes looking right into mine (eye contact again has not come easily to him) "are you OK Mummy" came the worried little question with real feeling in his voice, of course darling I just need to have a quick check up. This is amazing because he showed that he was firstly concerned for someone and secondly the fact if they were OK. This is a massive step forward for him in understanding concern for others and voicing that verbally.
Then when I got back, he ran over with sheer delight shouting the words "I missed you Mummy" throwing his arms around me. Again this showing of emotion and care are huge steps forward for a little one with autism, when he noticed I had a blood test he asked if I was OK.
These small steps mean the world to us they show he is starting to understand emotions ans feel concern for others.
Below is a link that talks more abut the social communication this is an area OB really needs a lot of support with, as I mentioned above all children who are autistic are different and have different areas that they struggle with, these are our experiences and I hope will help others starting their autism journey.
You can see the real key words are small steps we have made, sometimes you may feel your not moving forward and sometimes your moving backwards then an event will happen and you will see how far your little one has come.